Treat Yo Self!

It's almost Mother's Day and I have been brainstorming things that I could get for my mom to show her just how much I appreciate her and everything she has done for me. My question is however, what do I get the mother who has given me the world, but deserves the world all at the same time? I have no idea. I first had the thought of getting her a pair of Prada shoes she fell in love with at buffalo exchange, but when I went back to get them they were gone (To be fair, they were only $40 and Prada, that's a good deal). So, I started looking around the store and saw some shoes I think she would love too, but they weren't Prada. She deserves Prada. I wanted her to have the shoes she fell in love with when we were shopping together, because instead of buying the shoes for herself, she bought two pairs of shoes for me and a couple items of clothing. My mother deserves Prada. So I left the store on a mission to find the perfect Mother's Day present for the best mom in the world. This got me thinking...we do more for other people than we do for ourselves. I am definitely guilty of this. I felt terrible for not being able to find those shoes for my mom and I automatically started judging myself for not going to the shop earlier to get the shoes. We all do this. We all put others before ourselves. I'm not implying that this is a bad thing, but it can be if we take it to the extreme of damaging our personal and mental health. I've learned while being in treatment just how important self-care is for one's mental health, and physical health for that matter. It is so important to take care of yourself once in a while, even if you don't want to, it will benefit your mental health and perception of your worth. It doesn't matter where you are in life or where your mentality is, we all need self-care and self-love in our lives. Mother's Day is in 4 weeks and I'm freaking out about getting my mom the perfect gift. I need to take a step back and stop beating myself up for not being able to give my mom everything she deserves, but I can't provide that, it just isn't realistic. What is realistic however, is getting her something I know she will like and maybe even love...like a really cute pair of shoes, that don't have to be Prada. Or anything that shows her I care. I know my mom well enough to know that whatever I get her, she will love, and it will not change her love for me. If I'm being honest, if I got her nothing and just told her verbally just how much I love and appreciate her, she would still be thankful and happy. So, treat yourself once in a while. Be kind to yourself and love yourself. Buy those fancy shoes. Go get your nails done. Take a longer nap. Eat an extra piece of cake. And most importantly, give your mom a hug and let her know just how much you love her and appreciate her. Happy Mother's Day!